Sodalis
The Field Guide
Candid, expert writing on the lifestyle, desire, and connection, for the curious and the committed alike. No shame, no caricature. Female-safe by design.
The Jealousy Conversation
May 23, 2026 · Dr. O · jealousy, communication, open-marriage
Soft Swap or Full Swap. The Plain Version.
May 23, 2026 · Dr. O · soft-swap, swinging, etiquette
Why Desire Fades, and How It Comes Back
May 23, 2026 · Dr. O · desire, erotic-intelligence, marriage
Your First Night in the Lifestyle
May 23, 2026 · Dr. O · first-time, etiquette, swinging
How to Bring It Up With Your Partner
May 23, 2026 · Dr. O · communication, open-marriage, desire
Lifestyle Travel. The First Trip.
May 23, 2026 · Dr. O · travel, etiquette, open-marriage
Opening a Marriage Without Breaking It
May 23, 2026 · Dr. O · open-marriage, communication, consensual-non-monogamy
For the Woman Who Sets the Pace
May 23, 2026 · Dr. O · desire, female-sexuality, communication
Boundaries and Agreements
May 23, 2026 · Dr. O · etiquette, communication, open-marriage
Reading is the start
The Field Guide is the door. Sodalis is the room.
A private members club for couples who date other couples. Vetted, female-safe, and small on purpose. Reading about it is one thing. Walking into the room is another.
- A directory of verified couples and singles, every profile real.
- Curator-hosted Rounds and City Dinners, by mutual yes.
- Workshops on erotic intelligence, taught by people who know.
- Travel, vineyard weekends, and a room that follows you.