How we treat each other here.

Every interaction here is built on a clear yes. Consent is freely given, specific, and can be withdrawn at any moment, by anyone, for any reason or no reason. A profile, a flirt, an event invitation, or a past yes is never a standing yes. When someone slows down or steps back, you slow down or step back. No questions owed.

A no is a complete sentence. Take it gracefully the first time. Pressure, repeated asks after a decline, guilt, or persistence dressed up as charm are not welcome here. The fastest way to lose your membership is to make someone feel unsafe.

What happens at Sodalis stays at Sodalis. Do not share another member’s identity, photos, profile, messages, or presence in the room with anyone outside it. No screenshots of profiles or conversations. No naming names. No outing anyone, ever. Discretion is not a courtesy here. It is the rule.

Use real, recent, accurate photos of yourself or yourselves. Do not post images of anyone who has not agreed to be shown. Do not capture, save, or repost another member’s images. Treat the photos you see the way you would want yours treated.

Be who you say you are. Couples are couples. Singles are singles. Misrepresenting your identity, your relationship, or your intentions breaks the trust the whole room depends on. So does pressuring a partner into being here. Everyone present should want to be here, on their own terms.

No harassment, stalking, threats, or intimidation. No slurs or hate toward anyone based on who they are. No unsolicited explicit content. No conduct that is illegal anywhere it touches. This is a place for warmth and curiosity between adults, not a place to make anyone smaller.

You must be at least 18, or older where your home requires it. Nothing about minors, ever, in any form. Accounts are for the people they belong to. Do not bring anyone into an interaction who has not agreed to be part of it.

If a member crosses a line, or if you feel unsafe, tell the curators. Write to curators@sodalis.club. We read every report, we keep it confidential, and we act. Reporting in good faith never counts against you.

Depending on what happened, we may give a warning, limit an account, or remove a member without refund. Serious breaches, anything that endangers a member, and anything illegal lead to immediate removal, and where appropriate, a report to the authorities. The room is small on purpose, and we protect it.